Menopausal women are usually (though not always) paired with men of a similar age. This is because we have grown old together and realize that no one else would have us.
My husband and I have been married for 39 years. This is
a miracle as I remain 29 years old. When my 12-year-old granddaughter asked
about this, I said, "It's the new math." She shook her head and gave me one of
those pitying looks that seem to come more and more often my way.
the men in our lives. My sweetheart is a dear man. But he has some annoying
habits. One is his total inability to know when I need a compliment. When he
leaned over in church one day and said, out of the blue, "You're old," I knew we
needed an attitude adjustment. By attitude adjustment, I mean that he needed to
change his own.
I'm old. Okay. I accept that. Does that mean he has to
whisper it in church? There was a time when he'd whisper, "You're beautiful."
No more. Now, it's "You're old."
Couldn't he have said, "You're as
beautiful now as you were the day I married you?" Of course that would be a
bald-faced lie, but who the hell cares? Lies have their place.
Especially in a marriage of 39 years.